Relationships recently have been going through a dramatic change, from how we meet people to how we go on dates. A giant question is… are humans meant to be monogamous? If you are not familiar with monogamy, it just means you are married to one person only. Now I am going to try and answer this in a scientific approach. If you look at humans through out history, from the first humans that walked on Earth, all the way till now, there is a change. Humans are linked to primates and we have seen that gorillas are polygamous. There is only a few species in the animal kingdom that are monogamous like swans, wolves, beavers and a couple more. But is it natural for humans to be monogamous? We are so used to the idea of getting married and being with that person for the rest of your life, and he have adapted this idea of marriage in many countries. Let’s look at the lion for example; it protects the pride. It shows a sign of dominance and strength. It mates with the females and commonly, lions fight each other for the right to mate. Even though humans are much smarter than lions and more complex, you still see this in our society. Women choosing there partner based on certain aspects and male traits is common. A better looking guy with money has a higher chance over the lesser looking guy without money. You could argue with me by saying, “Oh! but its not about the looks or money! It’s about their personality!” Slap yourself. This is rare. We live in a society of competition. Love could be nothing but a word created by humans and the feeling of “love” could be nothing but a natural primal feeling. If monogamy was the case, then why do we get bored in relationships? Why do guys look at other woman or feel attracted to other woman when they are married or in a relationship? If you say this has never happened to you, then you are lying to yourself. If we were monogamous, it would be wired in a our brain to have offspring with one partner, and not like other woman. Like swans. Swans mate for life. Many decline other swans after their mate dies. Before the idea of marriage was created, when humans lived in tribes, I am sure that polygamy was practiced. Things have changed. Marriage has always been something political. To be allies with a country, or to bring families together. We stuck to the idea that marriage is something called love. Marriage will always be something complicated. And for many, the idea of monogamy may be the right way, but what is it actually like in our nature? I think a couple that is married without a divorce, shows complete devotion to the other person and of course discipline. If you last forever with your partner, well to me that’s something beautiful. You are fighting off nature and your primal instinct, all for one person. That’s amazing.
If you want to learn more on this subject, research it online! Lots of articles on it! 🙂